Love Addict Test
Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not? Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? Etc.
Tuesday, March 5, 2013
Blog #5 Is Love Your Drug? Due March 19th
The Brain in Love Video
Love Addict Test
Watch
"The Brain in Love" video and take the self-quizzes at the links above
and see what personality type you are and if you are a love addict. Now
that we know that love creates dopamine in the brain similar to many
drugs like cocaine and meth, we can now understand how many can become
addicted to being in love.
Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not? Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? Etc.
Love Addict Test
Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not? Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? Etc.
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I dont know why some people need love, and feel like they have to be on a t.v show or it's their last hope. I see single life as damn awesome i have so much time for myself i get everything i need to done and at the end of the day i dont have to call or text 100 times a day to anyone. I defnitely think it has something to do with the brain and the comlex system it goes by...because even if i tried to be a love addict i don't think it'd be a success. I mean when im happy with someone and falling for them then im at my happiest and i really enjoy every minute and yes i miss that every once in a while but i dont NEED it. I just really enjoy it.
ReplyDeleteThe test revealed that I am a love addict. I love being in love with my husband and I love being loved back. I believe nature and nurture equally have much to do with the way a person loves, allows themselves to be loved, loves themselves or not, and how love is viewed.
ReplyDeleteI think how we feel towards others depends on what kind of person you are. Everyone is different, but I personally don't need anyone to depend on love. For example, I don't understand how some people can commit suicide just because their boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with them, like seriously some people have to be mentally strong & move on with life. There are so many people on this planet! -_-
ReplyDeleteI think I would fall under being the tiniest bit of a love addict. I answered yes to about 4 or 5 questions. I think the reason that some people who fall in love and become love addicts are that they always need the reassurance that they are loved by somebody otherwise they might feel useless or unwanted, when in actuality it is good to be single and on your own sometimes. I have to agree with Alyona that it is awesome a majority of the time but every once in a while you think about sharing your happiness with somebody else. I have always loved this friend of mine since middle school and probably always will. Me and her had always clicked and got along so I'm probably a love addict when it comes to her. I think the way that people turn out to be love addicts is by experience. In my opinion, nothing shapes a person more than what they encounter throughout their lives. Those who never had really any close relationships and then finally get one find themselves always wanting that since they never had one before.
ReplyDeleteI am not a love addict; in fact I’m very skeptical about love. Love can either help you grow as a person or shrinks you down. I’ve seen how it shrinks you down watching my sister’s relationships, and I have too much to lose to take that chance. I feel like you have to learn how to be an independent person before you can share your life with someone else. Like if it's impossible for a person to be single for more than a month or week (great example is Taylor Swift) then you really can't possibly love/like somebody with at all your heart like you claim to. I think a person can fall in love with the idea of love. But the catch is that, that love is only in movies, yes there are exceptions but chances are those people weren't looking for it. It just happens. I have friends who are love addicts but I just think that they just need the reinsurance of love to raise their self-esteem. Sometimes people need to understand that if you go looking for it you might not ever find it because you’ll let it slip away from you, you just need to let it happen.
ReplyDeleteI am not a Love Addict, I thought I might be on the borderline-the test states "not even close". I love being in LOVE, but I do not fall in love with anyone and everyone. I love hard and I hope the other person loves hard also.
ReplyDeleteI think some people confuse:
love and lust
want and need
When love is good, it can be very good. But, when it is bad, it is really bad.
Pick and choose wisely-love can be magic!
I am definitely not a love addict. It is pretty evident as I have never had a boyfriend. I believe people become love addicts because they do not feel like they are complete on their own. They need someone to complete them. The truth is, only Jesus Christ can fulfill the void in everyone's life. No person is perfect and will always disappoint. This doesn't mean I'm against relationships at all, I just have a different view. You enter a relationship not to see what you can receive, but to give all you can.
ReplyDeleteI took the test and I am not a love addict. I think that people who are "love addicts" are just more attached to having relationships and relying on someone for stability. It could also be a self-esteem issue, maybe they need someone to "love" them so they are able to experience the feeling of satisfaction(approval) or well-being.
ReplyDeleteI am not a love addict, I don't need love but I do like the feeling of being in love.
ReplyDeleteI took the test and I am not a love addict, But I do know people who are. For example and Uncle is the type of guy who constantly needs to be with someone. he needs someone to take care of him he can never be alone. He lowered his standard so much that he once got into a relationship that was abusive, and another one where the girl was a gold digger. it took him years to realize what he was doing, but now he is happily married with one baby.
ReplyDeleteI think there are people who are like that because they need to have someone there to take care of them no matter what. Some people even go to extremes and get on TV shows instead of being patient and wait for the right person to come along. I just think it's a matter of self-esteem because as long as that love addict has someone there to make them feel loved they feel like their world is complete.
When I took the test it said I was not a love addict but, I already knew that. Im not the type of person who needs others attention. Not to be mean but Ive dating people that I would conside love addicts (or just crazy) and I found it more than frustrating to be with them as they seemed to always need my support and didnt want to spend time apart. Im also friends with people who are love addicts and it can tend to be annoying when they talk about relationships and how they say I should be more involed... which means to them being a complete stalker
ReplyDeleteI am not a love addict, but I do think that when I am in love I will appreciate the other person and not become attached or clingy...I do like my personal me time. I think people may become love addicts if they are lucky and find their soul mates or if they try so hard and never find that special person so they become addicts to fill that void with in themselves.
ReplyDeleteI am currently in love, but am not a love addict. I do enjoy the feeling of being in love, but I do not feel like I need it constantly. I am able to enjoy time with my partner and also enjoy time by myself. After reading the Love Addict Test questions, I could think of a few people I have known that showed nearly all of the symptoms of love addiction... and of those people, I think they became love addicts because they felt a significant lack of love early in their lives. After experiencing their "first love" and feeling what it was like, they needed it constantly afterwards because they had finally found the feeling they had been looking for all along, and couldn't get enough to the point that when that love ended they immediately needed to find new love to fill the gap.
ReplyDeleteI am definitely no where near a love addict. Thanks to my lovely father he raised me to love myself. Affection, love and all the lovey dovey stuff is definitely an awesome feeling and keeps the heart beat racing ;-) ......But love is not something I NEED. I enjoy myself, I enjoy my friends, family and most importantly just living my life for me. I don't crave love. I look in the mirror and I love myself and that is the perfect cup of tea for me :)
ReplyDeleteI think people fall in love because of our biology make up. Like in the ending of the video we have been falling in love for millions of years. Chemicals in our brain make us fall in love. As most people say, "love makes you do dumb things" I have to agree with that because love is an addiction. We do crazy stuff when we're in love. Biology has something to do with it because of the
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I am definitley not addicted to love. It's not necessary to always have someone there, just to feel loved. Especially when it means lowering your standards because there is no one avaliable that you want. I am extremely independent, even though it is really nice when a guy does things to show affection, we dont truly need it. I personally have never been in love, thats a big word to just throw out there. It's so easy to point out love addicts, especially now with all the social networking. I see some people in relationships for a couple of weeks already saying theyre in love and a month later theyre supposedly in love with someone else. I look at some of my friends who are love addicts, while theyre in love with their significant other, they tune out the world. Forgetting who their friends are and whats really important. These people will realize how addicted they really are after the breakup. Love makes you blind. It seems as if people only you see whats right in front of them and not the big picture.
ReplyDeleteAfter answering the questions I think I may be a love addict! I think some people become addicted to love when they are new at relationships. I think when you start to mature more and date more you start to lose the love addiction. I also think that biology definitely has something to do with it too because chemically it affects our brains, so some people may be affected more than others.
ReplyDeleteI am not addicted to love. But it is extremely important to me.
ReplyDeleteI think people become love addicts because of multiple things. One thing could be their attachment styles; someone who becomes easily attached would obviously be more prone to love addiction. Another could be self esteem; if they need other people in order to feel good of themselves, then they become more susceptible to love addiction. Also paternal issues and lack of attention from a mother and father could lead to love addiction as well. But I'm not pretending to know, I could be hella wrong. But it seems to me that there are a number of factors that could play into something as complex as a person that is addicted to love.
After taking the love addict test I learned that im not a love addict. I kind of knew this already because I guess you can say i use to be, i was always in a longterm relationship with someone and i felt like i couldn't be alone but after the bad break ups i would tell myself i didn't need anyone to be happy because i knew i didn't. I believe it's all a mindset. Now i follow my brain first instead of my heart. When you're young you want to be in love but we should know that there's over 6 billion people in the world why are we going to stop looking just because we THINK we found "the one" we don;t really know until we've explored many different types of people. In every relationship you learn something like what qualities to look for and which ones you should keep an eyes out for. I think some people settle for less than what they deserve because they just feel the need to be wanted and it's the wrong way to go about it. I have a lot of friends come to me crying about their relationships and asking for advice, it kills me to see them so depressed as if they couldn't live without their significant other but once you're in a mind set telling yourself you deserve so much better and you won't settle for less it definitely makes you feel better and it does make you so much stronger. Insecurities play a big part in this also if you feel like crap you're going to run to anyone that feeds you what you want to hear and you'll take it because of low sef-esteem but if you think positively you'll learn to be independent. I believe you should love as hard as you can but being IN LOVE is different, once you're in love I'm sure you'll feel it, For now we're all so young and we have so much to make out of ourselves, mistakes to make and people to meet. Love can wait a minute. You may think he's your knight in shining armor but once you see who he really is you're just going to think of him as a potato wrapped in foil.
ReplyDeleteAfter taking the quiz, it is shown that I am a love addict! I feel that only once in my lifetime, I have truly been in love with a girl that I was with and had so many feelings and emotions for. I'm the type of guy to enjoy the single life, but always having that feeling of wanting someone there and I can say that she is mine. I am an independent person but also need attention sometimes like when seeing my bros with their girlfriends. I think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not because it's just the way the person is and if they are really mature to love. Some take advantage of the feeling and take it for granted. Biology does have a part in this because it's what gives us these emotions for our lover and makes our brain produce chemicals and feelings to love someone.
ReplyDeleteI myself am not a love addict, there is nothing wrong being addicted to love. Love is a great feeling, and it is good while it last. Ive only been in love once, i thought before i was in love but you could say it was more of a crush. The quiz shows me that I'm not searching for love, i'm not needy for love in a continuous pattern either. I believe everyone has their own special person, and they will find them as time and experiences pass on. When some people fall in love they cant resist that feeling of dopamine that is released to them that they need more and more. As others fall in love and do not become addicts, i think that they obviously love to feel that feeling but don't want it to be stripped away from them. To them it is worth it but more harder to find in a sense of not wanting to lose it. I think it is a combination of everything.
ReplyDeleteI think people fall in love depending on where they are in life. Some times people fall in love for the wrong reasons just to have someone and others fall in love because they are in a good place. I've had my heart broken and yeah I've dated someone just to get over an ex (who hasn't rebounded) but I realized pretty quickly that it's easier to have your time to heal and grow rather than waste someone's time. So I ended a relationship after 3 weeks just be single. Maybe some people don't fall in love because they are too immature and out of touch with their own feelings to deal with how they feel about someone close to them. I've seen a lot of friends date and break up and move on like no big deal. Of course I thought it was strange because I had my heart broken and I wanted to know the secret to not feeling hurt but really my friends probably weren't mature to realize the feelings involved. It's like when your in elementary school and you date someone for like a week. Your just playing the roles you see grown ups do but the reality of what goes into a relationship just isn't there, so no one gets hurts when your 10 years old.
ReplyDeleteI believe people become love addicts for the same reason people become drug addicts: it's a high. They get a feeling of escape from the real world and enter the fantasy world where they feel nothing can stop them. But like with every drug, it eventually wears off, just as it would when a couple breaks up, and the user comes back to reality looking for their next high. Therefore, the person becomes addicted simply to due to the fact of having a high. As far as why some people don't fall in love, I think it's because they haven't experienced the true meaning of love and experienced the "love high".
ReplyDeleteThe test showed that I'm not a love addict. Even though I've never been in love I think being in love is important. I think people fall in love and become love addicts because they like the feeling of having someone there. Others like the feeling but they don't get attached to their significant other like love addicts.
ReplyDeleteNot to sound like a hopeless romantic, but I agree with Helen Fisher’s assertion that there is a lot of magic behind love. The differences in the way people fall in love cannot be pinpointed by a specific deciding factor. I believe that love is as personal as it is situational. Whether or not someone becomes addicted to love depends on the relationship itself as well as the person’s genetic makeup, attachment styles, self-concept, etc.
ReplyDeleteFalling in love and becoming a "love-addict" I think really depends where you are in life and your relationship with the other person. I guess if we're going off of the test, I would be considered a love addict, however some of those questions had to do with past relationships and there were a couple that I answered yes to and like 1 or 2 that I said "sometimes" to. Now, back in high school, I was definitely a love addict. There were a few things that after reading them, I remembered being somewhat like that back then with my ex. I was also in an abusive relationship with him, but I ended up staying because I thought he would change (and that didnt happen...he's my ex for a reason lol). Speaking now, I wouldn't say I'm a love addict, I'm just addicted to loving and being in love with my man.
ReplyDeleteI think that it just depends on the type of person you are. I would consider myself a love addict. I love the feeling of having someone their and being able to be myself around them. Yes i love the feeling, but i don't depend on it. I feel like i'm the type of person that doesn't NEED someone, but i like to have someone's company.
ReplyDeleteI believe that our biological makeup does effect the way we love to a point, but I also believe that a person's experiences makes a difference as well. When someone is hurt over and over again, it can lead to a person either feeling the need to cling to whoever they find or becoming distant and indifferent about relationships. Of course, not everyone is the same and that is where biology can come back into play along with a person's view of themselves; their brain function and way of thinking.
ReplyDeleteI think that it also just depends on the person and maybe what they have experienced with relationships and with love. I know alot of people that push away when it comes to love because they are scared to get hurt again like they did before and are scared to let someone get close to them because that person might hurt them like that last did. Personally i like loving and being loved its just a really happy and great feeling to have. I dont need it but i would definitely be sad if i didnt have it. I think everyone likes to be cared about and vise versa, someone they can talk to and have a relationship with. I think love is a neccesity in the long run because i dont think anyone wants to end up alone, everyone wants that special someone to grow old with.
ReplyDeleteAccording to the test I am not a love addict, I think that we all fall in love according to our experiences in life, some people are able to bounce back from a break up pretty fast while others take long periods of time trying to understand why things did not work out and what they can do to avoid such situations in the near future. I personally think that even though it is a good thing to be able to be independent and unattached, we all need someone at one point to show our love and feel loved http://m.youtube.com/#well because I think it helps keep life interestin
ReplyDeleteThe test said i was not a love addict and i guess i have to agree since i have never been in love. Part of me hopes that love is good enough to get addicted to but i also never want to lose myself to it and change for love because you should only ever be loved for who you truly are. Yeah i hope one day i fall in love and its great but until then ill just worry about being as much like my weird self as possible.
ReplyDeletelove happens naturally and it is something you cannot make or force. if you feel something throughout your body and heart and you know its real, then that is love. you can not make yourself like someone and want to be with someone. I am NOT a love addict but i do appreciate love.
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