While most human beings will engage in making some excuses in their lives, the common Ben Franklin saying “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else,” may be more of a self-fulfilling prophesy for excuse-makers than simply avoidance or laziness. Whether excuses are used to shift blame or improve what other people think, it may be easier for excuse-makers to live with excuses than think about living with having tried at something and failed.
Share with us a time when someone has given you an excuse that you know was a lie. How did you know that it wasn't the truth? What verbal/nonverbal cues were there? How did it affect your perception of that person?
There was this one time when I asked my friend to go out to eat with a group of us on Friday. She told me that she would go and was all excited about it. Friday came around and I texted her to see if she was coming. She told me she couldn't because a family friend was in town. I knew something was going on because my other friend told me that she was fighting with her fiance. So instead of coming out with us to enjoy an evening of fun, she made up a lie because her fiance was being a jerk. I knew she was lying by her tone. She just seemed like something was on her mind and that she did not want to talk about it. Which is understandable. But my perception of her has definitely changed a lot since then. We still remain friends, I just cannot trust her with anything personal or to follow through on a commitment.
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ReplyDeleteThere was a day that my brother was obviously down and out about something. He was quiet, removed, in thought, and barely communicated with me or anyone else. So later I went to his room, in which he had been all day, and asked what was wrong and he gave me the age old BS.
ReplyDelete"Nothing, I'm good."
I knew he was lying because of his tone of voice, body language, and previous attitudes. It affected my perception of him in the sense of communication. If I want to know how my brother is actually feeling I have to look at what he is doing and what his body language is saying because of his natural reluctance to speak out.
A while back I had heard my sister Debra talking to my other sister kelly about her being pregnant. I later asked my sister Debra if kelly was pregnant and she denied it. She continued to say "is there something you know that I dont" and almost made me feel bad about asking her. When I asked the question Debra tensed up and started turning red, she wouldnt look me in the eyes while answering me. I understand why she lied, it wasnt her information to tell and if I wanted to know I shouldve asked my sister Kelly directly. I dont have any problems with my sister over this issue.
ReplyDeleteIt was around the time I graduated high school, and I was having a graduation party. Everyone of my family members were there except for my grandparents on my dads side of the family. it was kind of embarrassing because everyone was asking where they were. So I called my grandma to see why she didn't show up. She made up an excuse to me that she thought it was the next weekend. I noticed the stutter and hesitation in her voice and she was telling me so I knew it was a lie. Especially because the day before my dad called them to remind them about it and they said they would go. It's not the first time they have done something like this so I was not that surprised. Now when it come to my grandparents on my dads side I just don't bother to depend on them for anything anymore because I know all that will happen is me being disappointed.
ReplyDeleteIts hard for me to remember any specific situations in which this has happened. I tend to keep friends who are honest and don't lie to my face about stuff. But I know everyone has had some incident in which they get the same old "there's nothing wrong. I'm fine" routine. My ex girlfriend used to do that all the time to me even though she made it very obvious that there was something bothering her. To me, honesty is an important thing to find in people and if you are making excuses I tend to not be around them. The perception I get of people who do that is that they don't trust you enough for them to be open with you. The verbal/non-verbal cues I notice are the not making eye contact with and the sighing and exaggerated speech.
ReplyDeleteIt was last year during in the fall semester both my brother and I were attending college. One day I came back from attending my morning classes and saw that my brothers truck was parked in the garage which was weird because when I get home no one is usually there. So I went in and saw my older brother playing COD.I asked him why he wasn't in class and he immediately responded by saying that all he had to do was take a test and the professor let him out early, but when he told me that he just started looking left and right all nervous like so I knew he was lying especially after I asked what the test was about and he started to stutter and mumble nonsense. I knew it wasn't the truth because he tends to stutter and mumble when he's nervous. The nonverbal cue was when he started to look left and right. It didn't really affect me because well he's my older brother but still acts like a kid. I just know I can't rely on him that much.
ReplyDeleteHe later on confessed that he had overslept and was not able to make it on time so he decided to play on the ps3.
DeleteWell, let me tell you. On Friday's my really close friends and I always hang out, it is the one day between our work schedules that we all are able to get together. Well one day we were all excited to go out and my friend Karsen said she couldn't. Figuring something was up I had asked her why not, and she said in a monotone voice, "Just, because.:" That is when I knew something serious was up. It turns out that her biological father, had passed just a few days beforehand. She is not one to share her feelings very well, which explained why she didn't show emotion when she said she did not want to go. Goes to show that when someone is lying it could be because they just did not want to do that thing, or because something really serious happened.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend whose birthday is very close to mine. I usually give my friends at least a small gift, but I don't expect them to give me anything in return. When I gave her the gift, she told me she had my gift at home but forgot it. I could tell she was lying. Mainly by simply her tone of voice and how it wasn't genuine, I knew she really didn't have a gift for me. I was right because I never did get anything from her. So I never expect anything from her, even if she says she intends to get me something. Although I don't don't get anything from her, I still like to give.
ReplyDeleteMy friend had been saying he's been wanting to join the Air Force for almost a year now, and while trying to decide he was still going to school . This semester he told me he wasn't going to take any classes and that he wanted to work and just save money. I had noticed that he was acting a little differently, and his facial expressions were a little off that day, but I said nothing. I let it be. Just a few days ago, he told me he finally joined the Air Force and that he's going to leave soon. He said he wasn't even going to tell me, he wanted to wait literally the day before he left to say a word.
ReplyDeleteThis didn't really affect the way I saw him, but it did make me upset that he hid it from me for quite awhile. He could've just been honest.
Last semester, I was carpooling with a friend to school and we were about to leave to go back home when she suddenly told me that we had to back because she had to lend a book to a friend of hers that had the same class. At the beginning I turned back without arguing but then I kinda felt that she had said it in a way that she was hiding something. When we arrived at the building she just got out the car really fast and met "someone" inside, even though it was really dark i could see that it wasn't the friend she was talking about, it was actually another person that i used to be friends with. I kinda understand why she disguised who we were going back for but i still did not like the fact that i was lied to...
ReplyDeleteMy best friend Jesika is late for almost everything. Many times the excuse is that she was caught in traffic or she fell asleep which is somewhat believable because she takes naps during the day. However, there was one time pretty recently that I asked her to pick me up from work. I had talked to her about 45 minutes before I got off of work to make sure she knew what time I would be off so she could get to me on time (she lives about 10-15 minutes away from my work). I found myself waiting on her once again, and this time I waited on her for about a half hour after I clocked out. She didn't answer any of my calls or texts in that period of time, and I knew there was a reason she wasn't picking up. When she finally pulled up outside, I got in her car, and asked what had kept her so long. She proceeded to tell me that she had gotten caught in traffic. I was immediately upset, although I didn't show it. I knew that there was no way that traffic would keep her this long first off because she also knows a back way to my work through the neighborhoods. The other things I detected was how even as we were sitting still in the car, she didn't once make eye contact with me, and she didn't sound as if she was speaking with confidence in her answer. I didn't let this affect the way I felt about her personally, but I was definitely upset that she had lied to me. I didn't understand why she needed to lie to me about it, and I admit that it did make me feel a little suspicious about what she had actually been doing to make her so late when she was so close by.
ReplyDeleteI do not have a specific time when I knew that my children were not telling the truth. But, I know when they are lying or better yet not lying outright but not teling the truth exactly - I have always told them when they are speaking to someone to have their body facing them and to look them in the eye. I wanted to teach them the importance of body language. If you are not facing the person, one may perceive that they are not important and did not deserve your full attention. I also, have told them that you can tell a lot from a person by the way they look at you when they are speaking (are they looking you straight in the eye or are their eyes shifting rapidly. I think for many of us, we know when our friends or family are lying. It may be their body language or the pace of their speech.
ReplyDeleteIn my previous line of work (Army) I was in charge of people and many times they would come to work late or call in sick all together. We worked on inpatient care units and worked 12 hr shifts with rotating weekend shifts. For those that were chronically late, they had many excuses, traffic, alarm broke, didn't have enough time between physical training and work to get breakfast, broken down car, sick wife, sick kids, sick dog, cat or whatever. Whatever excuse in the book they would used it and Ive heard it. The same pretty much applied to those that habitually called in sick or somehow escaped duty. I knew that they were lying because a: the tardiness was a pattern usually occurring on a Friday, Saturday, Sunday or Monday, b: they would avoid me all day (probably more so because they didn't want to be written up) and c: I would actually overhear them talking to their peers about the actual reasons for their tardiness or absence from duty. More often than not it was usually because they had been partying the night before or they called in sick and were off at the beach. This really lowered my trust and faith in them and caused me to second guess and check out their excuses.
ReplyDeleteI work part-time at Saltgrass Steakhouse as the head hostess, and get people calling in making excuses for not coming in for work all the time. Recently, I went out of town and one of my colleagues was supposed to cover my shift. When I asked her she seemed enthused about getting a couple of extra hours, she was also very dependable so I did not worry about her showing up to cover me. So two mornings into my vacation in Kansas City, I woke up to a phone call from Saltgrass wondering who was supposed to come in for me and received a lot of criticism for not taking care of everything properly. So I called this girl expecting something like "I slept in!" or "I'm stuck in traffic!" which are the normal sob stories. However she said neither of those things, she didn't even pick up. It wasn't until a week later that I was able to confront her about it. When I approached her, she immediately looked nervous. She actually told me that her grandpa was in the hospital, and that she was the only one to take care of him. Although I was sympathetic to her situation, I knew there was something missing to her story. I gave her the benefit of the doubt, until I talked to some other colleagues of mine about it. They said that the night before my shift she was arranged to cover she had been out with them, and one of the girls even told me that her grandpa lived in Mexico. So when I approached her for a second time asking about the situation, her story had changed. When I asked where her grandpa lives, she stuttered in her lie that he lived here. When I asked why she did not call me back, or ask one of the other employees she was hanging out with the night before to cover for me, she broke eye contact and fell silent. Just when I thought an apology was emerging, she looked at me with fake angry eyes (I could tell she was trying to force up just one tear to make it look real), and got mad at me for pressing the issue. My perspective on her changed, I thought we were friends. I now can not depend on her for much, not even simple tasks at the restaurant. When someone lies and lies and lies and then blames you for getting caught, there's just not a lot of trust to be had in that relationship.
ReplyDeleteI'm a big halloween fan. I don't care if people say I'm too old, but in my eyes I'm never too old for free candy! Anyways, I like to plan things ahead of time that way everyone can plan the date and not be busy for that day. Well, that day was halloween and I asked one of my good friends to join me just as he does every year. I also invited a couple of other my friends to join too. As I like to plan things ahead of time I would also check in before the date to make sure everyone still is in on the scheduled date. It was halloween day and I sent a text out to everyone making sure they are still up to go trick or treating. Everyone was in except one. He replied that he had broken his hand and won't be able to go. I knew he was lying because he had texted me at the last minute before I planned to pick everyone up and typically when someone gets an injury who's the first to hear about it? Facebook. I checked Facebook and there was nothing. Also, I immediately replied asking how such a thing happened and I never got a response. What does that tell you?
ReplyDeleteWell for myself there was a time during the summer where my bestfriend who is also like a brother to me (Gage), lied with an excuse. We would all hang out with the rest of the group of friends and do stuff like party or go to Sultans and smoke hookah. Whenever he needed a favor like for me to take him to work because he was low on gas, didnt get paid yet etc. I was there for him because thats what bestfriends are for. Gage would also help me out in bad situations I was in like being drunk and not able to drive home, so he would drive me home. We had been bros since middle school and everyone knows how good of a friendship we have. Gage also has a girlfriend named Darcy who lives in San Diego and decided to move to San Antonio and live with him in his apartment. Well on my birthday I had decided to have an all guys night out with all of our friends and go to dinner and after that go to a club in Austin. Ever since Darcy had moved to SA though, my other really good friend Josh and myself would notice that Gage would come up with alot more excuses to not go out with all of us. Well the night of my birthday he had told me that he got called into work and wouldn't get out till 2 in the morning. All of my friends and myself bought the excuse though and just proceeded on with our night out. Later that night I had gotten a text from my friend Ashley saying that she had saw Gage with Darcy at the Palladium and then at Red Robin. I was so pissed off and upset that my bro would come up with a lie to just get out of the plans we had just to go out with Darcy. I wouldn't had gotten upset if he told me the truth but really made me mad that he would lie to me. When we got back to SA, I had confronted Gage and told him that I knew he was lying about working late and he just stood there quiet and didn't know what to say. A couple of days had passed without speaking to eachother until he finally apologized for what he had done and should have just told the truth. Gage is still my bestfriend and I forgive him because were bros, but now after that there is some part of me where I can't really trust him 100% espicially when Darcy is living with him.
ReplyDeleteThere was a time when two of my friends were dating the same guy and they didn't know it. I kind of hinted what was going on to them and they got together and talked about everything and they came to a conclusion that he was a playa playa form the himalayas! They both confronted him and everyone witnessed him get interrogated by these two furious girls and he crossed his arms and got red. When he tried to speak he would stutter he couldn't really stand still he would look around until finally he walked away.
ReplyDeleteI remember this one girl I used to volunteer with at the Baptist Health System in downtown (let's call her Jane). She was known for fibbing her way out of her duty just to get to break or go home earlier than the rest of the team. When she would lie, her eyes wouldn't contact with ours. One day before she left for break, Jane said that one of the other girls had to deliver couple of files to the post office so before she was able to go on break. Jane then left to go on her own break. Just as the girl was about to leave for the post office, our department leader saw that it was her with the files and not Jane. Disappointed, our leader gave went into the cafeteria and found Jane, told her to clock back in for duty and deliver the files herself. Of course, Jane was trying to get herself out of trouble by saying that she thought that our leader had said for the other girl to do it, all while her eyes shifted, not meeting anyone's. After getting caught, she resigned from volunteering a week after that.
ReplyDeleteI had this friend named Josie, who would never follow through on her word. For example I had a birthday dinner with all of my friends and she said that she’ll be there after work but we all knew she was lying because when she does her voice goes up in pitch and gets very squeaky and her hand motions get very dramatic like if she’s trying to hypnotize us into believing her. We knew right away that she wasn’t going to be there just based off of those signs. Later that night we found out she went to sea world for that fright night thing they do every year. Needless to say it changed the way I viewed her character and our friendship. We are no longer friends.
ReplyDeleteBack home right after highschool, me and my friends from school would go out almost every weekend just to hang out now that we didn't have to go to school anymore. We were only five students in my senior year so we were all very close friends to each other, two of them were even brothers. We would go and do everything together like going to parties and motocross races every chance we had but we always made sure we could get most of the group to go, at least three of the five or else it we wouldn't go. Our friend Kevin though started hanging out with this girl who eventually turned to his girlfriend. We all knew he would start spending more time with her than us and we as friends would not mind at all, on the other hand we happy for him and encouraged him to hang out with her. After one month though Kevin completely stopped hanging out with us and if he did he would only stay for ten to fifteen minutes at a party which was odd to us since we all knew Kevin as being the first one into a party and the last one out. We would joke around saying his girlfriend had him whipped and what not and though he laughed and pitched in with jokes there was a weird look in his eyes whenever it happened. We all planned a goodbye party for one of our friend from the group because he was going to move out to go to college. We planned it out and we even invited Kevin and his girlfriend because we knew he would not go out if his girlfriend was not there. The day we had the party everyone else from the group said they would be there and when the night came a few minutes before we started the party our friend who was leaving got a text from Kevin saying he was not going to be able to make it. When I got to the party and asked where Kevin was my friends told me about the text so we decided to call him and ask why. I called him about three times because he would not pick up the phone and when he did he sounded nervous but trying to sound calm at the same time. I asked him why he wasn't here and he said he had a family dinner and he couldn't leave. We were mad but at the same time we knew his family throws dinner parties all the time so we didn't give it much thought, we just figured it was unfortunate. Later on in the party after a couple of drinkks one of my friends told me to check my facebook and he seemed really mad about something. When I checked my phone we see a status from Kevin's girlfriend saying she had a nice time at the movies with him and that he was spending the night with her. We knew at this moment that he had lied to us and I thought back on how nervous and weird his voice sounded on the phone as if he was hiding something and now we knew what it was. We were all mad about Kevin bailing on us for his girlfriend when he spends everyday with her and also lying to us about. I guess I can see why he lied because he did not wanted us to know he preferred to spend time with his girlfriend than us after all we as friends have been through. Every now and then when I go back to Panama we all try to get all five of us together but we are always missing Kevin. Its been almost two years since the last time he hung out with everybody.
ReplyDeleteI remember a time I was with my cousin Roy, he had promised to give us a ride back home after going to the movies. I could tell by his body language that he was lying, so I made preparations to be picked up with my friends since I knew his word would not go through. He has always done things like that, and ever since that moment I've been very careful to not trust what he says, sometimes you can lose someones trust by lying to them consecutively. The way I viewed him changed, he was no longer that funny outgoing person but a liar.
ReplyDeleteOne of my friends and i haven't seen each other in a long time so we decided we would try and get closer again since the issues that seperated us weren't there anymore. She said she got off of work at 2pm and that we could hang out after so i texted her around 1 pm that day telling her just to text me when i could come over after her shift. Around 3 she sent back and "okay" and i thought i'd hear back from her shortly after. 6 hours had gone by and i had not heard back from her so i decided just to tell her goodnight and hope everything was okay she texted back immediately telling me she got off of work really late and had to go see her parents. Of course just texting me this late was to hard to do but from another co worker i found out she had gotten off at 2. Just seemed weird that it was her idea to get together and hang out yet she couldn't even tell me the truth or at least text me. Maybe there's a reason why our friendship didn't work out in the first place.
ReplyDeleteWhen I worked at a call center and had to take calls from people who were late doing certain things and wanting me to find a way to help them you could always tell by the tone of their voice when they were lying , it was so obvious that I could actually tell as soon as they started telling their story as to why they were late.It was really irritating because my job was to help them no matter what and they didn't need to make excuses but I guess they felt that they needed to justify it to me.
ReplyDeleteone of my old managers was one of the biggest liars i have ever met. she is one of those people who cannot admit she is wrong and will say anything to make it seem like shes right, even on the most obvious things. like one time me and another co-worker were having problems with the system computers, so we told her that we should upgrade to a higher verson of the software, which at the time was windows xp. she then quickly answered "its windows 8." although we didnt say anything to her, when she left we both said that she was full of it becasue the monitor says windows xp when it starts up. she doesnt really have any non verbal emotions when she lies alot of the time becasue she is one of those people that is so use to lying about things that she doesnt give away any hints that she is lying. my perspective of her didnt change at all becasue i always hated her.
ReplyDeleteMy brother has always been known for lying ever since he was little. A few years ago, I figured out that he had been skipping school for over two weeks. I asked him about the situation and he automatically denied it. I knew he was lying because he kept looking around the room, not making any eye contact with me, and his story would slightly change every time I asked him questions. Even though he is my brother, I can rarely ever believe anything he tells me and its very hard to tell when he is actually telling the truth.
ReplyDeleteThe room was quite, the only sounds heard were the end of 20 or more pencils filling in the only kind of bubbles that wont make you happy in life, yeah you know what I am talking about... the SAT. it was about a quarter after eleven and my tummy is getting a little hungry because its almost time for lunch and i hadn't eaten. I was just about to give up and proclaim myself a mad and starved man and burst from the room not caring what that might do my academic future. Just then the familiar sounds of someone opening a gum wrapper seemed to whisper in my ear telling me there was hope. I look back behind me and sure enough is this girl i didn't know with a pack of five gum and a piece of it already in her mouth. I had just turned around with enough time to see at least six or seven other pieces of gum in her pack. I did what any starving test taker would do. "psst hey can i have a piece of your gum please" I asked and as clear as day she looks up into my eyes and seems to stare into my soul and feel the pain and hunger i was experiencing and just says "i don't have anymore sorry" like it wasn't a big deal. Like it wasn't the end of my world as i knew it! I mean of course it wasn't and i survived obviously but I mean come on its not like it would have killed her to give me a piece of the gum i knew good and well that she had. It didn't kill me not to have the gum either so its all good but it did make me think about how often people lie about things that really don't even matter. Since then I have caught myself telling little white lies that if i told the truth or not it wouldn't have mattered. I cant say I thought differently about this person because of the lie when i didn't know them before but i guess i did just think it was kind of rude to do that to somebody.
ReplyDeleteThis ALWAYS happens. You hit up a friend to go out and they give you some excuse as to why they cant. Or Just backing out in general. They come up with escuses that dont make sense or ones that have never stopped them before. A long, drawn out, elaborate text message cna give that away.
ReplyDeleteI have a recent example of this, my brother was suppose to play poker tonight, but bailed out all of the sudden. How did i know he was lying about not being able to attend, an amount of studdereing consisted when talking to him, weak eye contact was there too. This made me feel dissappointed in him, and created a sense of unreliability.
ReplyDeleteWell obviously people can tell when other people are lying to them based on their verbal and non verbal communication,but I believe that it is not the lie itself that really stinks; its who that person is that's telling the lie that really disappoints you.
ReplyDeleteI guess you can say that excuses can lead to lies.
A while back, a friend and I had planned to go to a good friend of ours birthday dinner downtown. Well of course I was quite excited.. he had told me he would pick me up at 7:00pm. ok cool. So you know, i begin to get ready about 5.. time rolls around and 7pm becomes right around the corner. So sure enough 7:10, 7:15, 7:30...... And I am no psycho . (I promise hahaha) I begin to text him asking, "Where are you? Hurry up!! Were going to be late" etc. He claimed to be out shopping with his mother. FINALLY 8:30 he shows up right in my front door. I was beyond frustrated at this point. The dinner started at 8 and we are already 30 minutes late.. and its downtown +traffic. When I asked him in person where he was he just said the same excuse with his mother shopping with a smirk on his face. I just felt he was lying and the excuse was just not good enough.
ReplyDeleteI've been working at Freebirds for about a year now, and I have seen employees come and go for multiple reasons. A couple months ago we had a guy working in our kitchen who wasn't all that reliable as far as showing up to his shifts because he was always "saving up" to buy a car (which was supposed to happen every weekend but never did) and he was just a generally lazy person. One day he called into work to say he couldn't come in because he wasn't feeling all that well, and we figured, "Sure, maybe he's actually telling the truth, so this time we will give him the benefit of the doubt." The next day he was at work telling me how he'd gone out and got "soooo waaaasteeed" the night before. So he was very blatantly lying to management, and made the mistake of letting one of the managers overhear him saying this. Needless to say, next time he called in sick, he was told not to come back anymore. And by the time he was fired, he'd taken advantage of his coworkers and lied to us enough that our opinion of him had become so negative, we were just about ready to celebrate when he was finally gone for good.
ReplyDeleteBeing a part of a cheer team I always heard excuses. I pride myself on not making excuses and being completely honest. I remember when my high school cheer team was practicing our routine for State which was in a couple of weeks and my position was a flyer. My stunt group wasn't working together as well as usual and so I kept falling on my stunt. A girl in my stunt group kept blaming me for not staying in the air and I sincerely felt that it wasn't my fault, but after hearing it constantly I began to believe it. Eventually my coach switched the girl out of my group and put someone new in and after she did that I never fell from my stunt. The group that the girl went to started to complain about her not pulling her weight in the stunt . That's when I knew that she didn't know what she was doing and instead of being honest and taking the blame she blamed it on me because I was the one falling, even though it was because of her! Not cool.
ReplyDeleteMy older sister had been acting strange for the past two weeks. She would get super nascious, to the point where she once blacked out. I never seen my older sister so sick and anxious looking. She wouldn't look me in the eyes when I tried talking to her or she would just go to her room. I thought she was mad at me so when I asked what's wrong I found it odd when she said nothing and went to her room. My older sister and I have a close relationship and if she was ever mad at me she would just tell me. Finally she was in the living room and I walked out of my room and I saw her looking up the stages of pregnancy on her laptop but I just got a quick glance she closed her laptop as soon as I passed by. I started to think, is she pregnant? A few days later, I finally got to sit down w her and she told me she was pregnant. She was afraid to tell me. Her non verbals sorta gave away that something was up w her.
ReplyDeleteThere was one time where my brother was obviously sick but he kept insisting he wasn't. He was really pale and very hot with a fever. I would confront him about it but he wouldn't say anything. Eventually his stomach began to literally throb and he described it very painfully, yet he still didn't wanna go to the doctor to get whatever he was stricken with checked up on. It turns out that he's a little nervous of the doctor and was making excuses like "Oh I'm fine" and stuff to avoid a visit.
ReplyDeleteI have this friend who always feels the need to make up an elaborate excuse instead of simply telling the truth. For instance, if I ask her to hang out and she just doesn’t feel up to it she’ll tell me something weird like her dog started her period. When she told me that specific story, it was her verbal communication that immediately revealed that she was lying. Her dog is a boy. I guess at this point she was too lazy to even try to come up with an excuse. I’ve gotten used to her constant bailing and accepted her lame excuses. Ultimately though, it hasn’t made me think any less of my friend, most of time the excuses are pretty amusing and so I’ve just learned to just accept it as her personality.
ReplyDeleteWell my first blog entry about a week ago failed to publish. I'm not sure why some sort of computer error, but I assure you it was done.
ReplyDeleteIn a world where I have this friend who's really only a friend because we've known each other forever and he hooks it up sometimes and i guess he's cool to hang out with too, but other than that he's never down to do anything with me so this leads to a whole lot of excuses. Ive always kinda been able to recognize his nonverbals that give him away; like just hanging up when I ask to hang out or simply not answering. In person though they're actually more verbal, like statements suggesting a reason real or not to leave. like; "I'm hungry" when I actually know this lazy 95 lb 19 year old with the body/metabolism of a 9 year old girl eats his weight in candy and tacos everyday. So theres no way he can be hungry after we just ate.
Im not just ranting Im just passionate ending the bs and starting a new world where everyone is completely straight forward with each other. I also feel like I should put more thought into these.
People are going to make excuses. People make excuses because they are to scared to commit or fail. People need to learn how to except whatever outcome may happen in life. Making excuses will keep a person living in there bubble. It can be a waste of time and there life.
ReplyDeletei can admit that i have made up excuses or lied to my friends or family before. people dont do it to be a "liar" or whatever you want to call it but i only do it because i dont want to hurt their feelings or make them feel bad.
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